The Either/Or Construction for Asking for Consent

I bought this delightful erotic hypnosis video by Lex of entrancement.co.uk, and there was a nice moment towards the end that showed a smooth way to ask for consent. His model, Ziva Knight, had been having a very sexy shower where she had gone in and out of trance and the shower gel, by his suggestion, was arousing on her skin. She was obviously getting turned on. After a while (and when she was not in trance) he asked:

Tell me, do you want this to feel sexual - do you want a climax - or do you want to cool down now and just enjoy the rest of your shower?

And, notably, she said, "Cool down". And he launched into his "cool down" patter.

I like this either/or construction, because it gives someone an easy out, which I think is so important for meaningful and easy negotiation. Women in particular are trained that it's a big deal to say "no", and if Ziva was asked only, "do you want a climax?" and wasn't skilled at deflecting the question, they might have felt pressured.

And how it was done was just as important as the form: he spoke in a neutral voice, giving both possibilities equal emphasis, and so conveying that he didn't care whether it went one way or the other. I know Lex is into hypnotic orgasms, and has included it in shoots where the model is comfortable with the idea, but he did a good job of hiding it. And then when she chose the "cool down" option, he accepted it immediately and without discussion, like she had just chosen between his offers of toast or waffles. (also a good reminder that even if someone is visibly turned on, that doesn't mean they necessarily want to have an orgasm, or even continue with the sexy sensations, and it shouldn't be taken as consent to escalate)

The either/or approach takes a little bit of practice and care, since you have to project that both choices are equally ok, and the "escape route"  should be something that actually is in the other person's mind (which might take a couple of tries). Often it can be something simple like, "or do you just want to keep enjoying this trance for now" or "would you like to come out of trance and take a break". Even though it's very tricky to as for permission from someone in a trance, as well as in the spacy state of mind between trances, and it certainly shouldn't be done for the big things, during a particular session, I think the either/or approach is an effective tool for tuning into what someone is in the mood for, even while hypnotized. All of Lex's videos that I've seen do a great job of modelling erotic hypnosis consent, with frequent use of either/or and many other techniques to make his models feel comfortable and in control.