cw: short fragments of quoted hypnotic language, discussion of nonconsent
Dear fuckface,
Last night at 4 a.m. you sent my wife a message via Fetlife to try to convince her to go on a date with you tonight. The message started,
Then in the next paragraph you wrote a kind of sexual word salad, 73 words in one sentence, to create overload and attempt to produce arousal ("just the perfect tones that heal, and seduce, and entrance and enchant" etc), even wishfully walking her some of the way to a hypnotic orgasm ("... or bring you to cum with a touch on your ear. Or a whisper. Or a note. ... But probably not an email. That might be asking too much ;)")
Then you bragged about yourself for a while, and described yourself as "all the things you mentioned in your ad" (would that be her profile that requests "social justice and consent warriors, and owned vulnerability"?)
Then came the closer question. You're in town for two days only, and would like to offer her a "surprise date". And in a final, age-old seduction tactic, you asked "Are you down to carpe the fuck out of this diem?"
No, no she was not.
It didn't hurt to try though, right?
Yes it did. Here's how it hurt you to try.
There is a vibrant and growing erotic hypnosis community in the United States and, increasingly, around the world. It is full of hot, sexually adventurous women - including of the type whose pictures you love to love - who absolutely adore being hypnotized. A charming, skilled hypnotist could do well!
Except, Doc, for the fact that you tried to non consensually mind control one of us into going on a date with you. Right now, a bunch of people are getting ready to private message me to ask for your user name. You just eliminated your chances of getting with any of them, or their partners, or friends, and put at fatal risk your chances of going to any of the several erotic hypnosis conferences around the world, each with hundreds of excited hypnosis devotees (where you could have even learned something, expanded beyond dimestore NLP).
This is about trust, and you've shown that potential trance partners can only trust you to see them as an object to be manipulated.
What is a "surprise date" by the way? Is this a date where the woman doesn't know where she'll be whisked off to, which by the way means not being able to tell her friends where to find her? Or are you just too lazy to come up with something Boston specific?
You have set your bridges on fire. You have told the internet you can't be trusted not to use hypnotic language on people without their consent. You have proven yourself to be a predator, in easily screenshotted form.
This is not about me being possessive, by the way, even though I'm her husband and dom (and I actually do possess her). This is about my anger for you hurting the one I love most in the world.
She read your message over her morning coffee, and it had a little creepy effect on her. She shook it off, and used a safeword trigger. But for that icky awful feeling, of a stranger treating her like an object and trying to get into her head, and get her to meet him. For that, I'm not going to forgive you.
Hey, not to put you on the spot, you're not the only one out here doing this. In fact it's quite likely you copied and pasted the text off a website. You're typical. One friend of mine or another gets one every few weeks. This is gross PUA nonsense, that gives all hypnosis a bad name, by making people think it's about sad horrible creeps attempting to mind rape women they see as nothing more than holes to warm their dick on a Friday night. The kinky hypnosis community is scrubbing out this kind of truly nonconsensual manipulation, not to mention hackiness, and becoming a place for creativity and respect for agency, where people like you will never be welcome.
But I wouldn't be surprised if you wrote the message yourself, and are even pretty of proud of it. How many times have you sent something with a lot of the text of this message? Do you have it in a separate little text file, or do you copy it from your sent messages? It's bad enough if it results in pitiful failure like this time, but much worse if you had any success. What a delightful time, what a treat, that woman probably had on her surprise date, starting from this basis of treating her like a fuck machine whose buttons you just have to push in the right order.
This slimy bullshit has to stop. You need to stop sending your message. On Fetlife, people will be warned about you. And don't be surprised if word spreads anywhere else you hunt.
Fuck you sincerely,
Divney
P.S. khatsha says fuck you too
Dear fuckface,
Last night at 4 a.m. you sent my wife a message via Fetlife to try to convince her to go on a date with you tonight. The message started,
You ever just stumble into someone wonderful and feel yourself light up with attraction purely by chance? Where your pulse quickens and you don't even know why?After attempting to elicit a state, you then went on to try to connect it to yourself ("Or maybe you do - like with me, a professional stage hypnotist in town overnight")
Then in the next paragraph you wrote a kind of sexual word salad, 73 words in one sentence, to create overload and attempt to produce arousal ("just the perfect tones that heal, and seduce, and entrance and enchant" etc), even wishfully walking her some of the way to a hypnotic orgasm ("... or bring you to cum with a touch on your ear. Or a whisper. Or a note. ... But probably not an email. That might be asking too much ;)")
Then you bragged about yourself for a while, and described yourself as "all the things you mentioned in your ad" (would that be her profile that requests "social justice and consent warriors, and owned vulnerability"?)
Then came the closer question. You're in town for two days only, and would like to offer her a "surprise date". And in a final, age-old seduction tactic, you asked "Are you down to carpe the fuck out of this diem?"
No, no she was not.
It didn't hurt to try though, right?
Yes it did. Here's how it hurt you to try.
There is a vibrant and growing erotic hypnosis community in the United States and, increasingly, around the world. It is full of hot, sexually adventurous women - including of the type whose pictures you love to love - who absolutely adore being hypnotized. A charming, skilled hypnotist could do well!
Except, Doc, for the fact that you tried to non consensually mind control one of us into going on a date with you. Right now, a bunch of people are getting ready to private message me to ask for your user name. You just eliminated your chances of getting with any of them, or their partners, or friends, and put at fatal risk your chances of going to any of the several erotic hypnosis conferences around the world, each with hundreds of excited hypnosis devotees (where you could have even learned something, expanded beyond dimestore NLP).
This is about trust, and you've shown that potential trance partners can only trust you to see them as an object to be manipulated.
What is a "surprise date" by the way? Is this a date where the woman doesn't know where she'll be whisked off to, which by the way means not being able to tell her friends where to find her? Or are you just too lazy to come up with something Boston specific?
You have set your bridges on fire. You have told the internet you can't be trusted not to use hypnotic language on people without their consent. You have proven yourself to be a predator, in easily screenshotted form.
This is not about me being possessive, by the way, even though I'm her husband and dom (and I actually do possess her). This is about my anger for you hurting the one I love most in the world.
She read your message over her morning coffee, and it had a little creepy effect on her. She shook it off, and used a safeword trigger. But for that icky awful feeling, of a stranger treating her like an object and trying to get into her head, and get her to meet him. For that, I'm not going to forgive you.
Hey, not to put you on the spot, you're not the only one out here doing this. In fact it's quite likely you copied and pasted the text off a website. You're typical. One friend of mine or another gets one every few weeks. This is gross PUA nonsense, that gives all hypnosis a bad name, by making people think it's about sad horrible creeps attempting to mind rape women they see as nothing more than holes to warm their dick on a Friday night. The kinky hypnosis community is scrubbing out this kind of truly nonconsensual manipulation, not to mention hackiness, and becoming a place for creativity and respect for agency, where people like you will never be welcome.
But I wouldn't be surprised if you wrote the message yourself, and are even pretty of proud of it. How many times have you sent something with a lot of the text of this message? Do you have it in a separate little text file, or do you copy it from your sent messages? It's bad enough if it results in pitiful failure like this time, but much worse if you had any success. What a delightful time, what a treat, that woman probably had on her surprise date, starting from this basis of treating her like a fuck machine whose buttons you just have to push in the right order.
This slimy bullshit has to stop. You need to stop sending your message. On Fetlife, people will be warned about you. And don't be surprised if word spreads anywhere else you hunt.
Fuck you sincerely,
Divney
P.S. khatsha says fuck you too
